Jealousy is a really delicate issue with Japanese women. It has always seemed to that they tend to get more jealous than western women. It might be because, in Japan, they don’t have so many friendships between the sexes. Japanese people tend to stick to their own gender. Another thing is that Japanese women fall hard when they fall in love; their man becomes everything, so maybe when they sense a threat to this, they react strongly.
Just like a woman of any nationality, you have to make sure your Japanese partner is happy and knows that she’s number one. If you keep her consistently content this way, it’s much less likely that she’ll get jealous in the first place. Usually when things are a little rocky or you’re too busy to see each other, this is when jealousy rears its ugly head.
You always have to be a careful with your female friends. Make sure your special friend always comes first. I remember a huge misunderstanding that I had many years ago when a female friend of mine was having trouble with her boyfriend. We met to have emergency drinks and my Japanese girl didn’t understand this. She assumed we’d be seeing each other that night, although no specific plans were made. This caused a little bit of trouble, but it was something we worked out. The point is to make sure your Japanese girl understands your friendships with female friends.
Japanese women are more prone to jealousy because they have self-esteem issues and problems with confidence. This is a cultural trait of all Japanese people; they generally lack confidence in themselves individually. When you’re dating a Japanese woman, this can turn into jealousy very easily. When this happens, make sure that she knows she’s number one. If you give her lots of praise and positive feelings, this will really help prevent this from happening.
Never stop reminding her how you feel about her. Tell her often and send her flowers. Even more importantly, maintain physical intimacy. There’s nothing like a sudden lack of physical intimacy to set alarm bells going off in a Japanese woman’s head. If you get busy with work or things get in the way, make sure that there’s at least some physical contact to reassure her that something isn’t wrong. Japanese women are very intuitive and they rely on this “sixth sense” a lot more than western women do.
Finally, watch where your eyes go. If your eyes do wander, make sure she gets MORE eye time than the woman who just walked by your table. In my experience, Japanese women really notice this. Japanese people tend to be really receptive to body language and facial expressions, probably because their culture is less about direct communication. So, try to keep your eyes on her when you’re out together.
Once a Japanese woman is convinced there’s something wrong, it’s very hard to change her mind. Because of this, make sure you keep touching her and letting her know that she’s the one. If she’s content and happy, jealousy won’t be a problem.