Meeting Japanese women isn’t hard to do but many guys have the feeling that they are hard to approach. This is because they respond considerably different from western women. Often, Japanese women don’t react to your advances in the way that you would expect them to. They are often much quieter, and this unnerves lots of western men.
One of the biggest problems is that western men often come on too strong for Japanese women’s tastes. This is especially true in public places. In Japan, people just don’t walk up and talk to strangers. They’re always worried about how their actions look to others. Since this isn’t done in Japan, she’s not going to like it if you do it.
Instead, you should make your approach much more natural. If there’s something about her that you can compliment naturally, this is a good start. Try finding an “in” with her instead of just walking up and talking to her. If you can find some point of connection between you, and start a natural conversation about that, you’ll do much better.
You should also be a gentleman with a Japanese woman. They have strict ideas about manners and etiquette, so you should show her this side of yourself. Don’t do anything overtly flirtatious, especially in public.
Some men use very direct techniques when approaching women. Their approach is to lay the cards on the table and tell the woman you like her up front. I can think of no easier way to have a Japanese woman running for the door than to do something like that. You should show her that you like her but in the most subtle way possible. For example, show that you’d like to spend more time with her, or offer to take her out to a dinner. Keep the flirty tone out of the encounter.
It’s also possible that there may be language difficulties. Even Japanese women who have lived many years abroad may be terribly sensitive about their language ability. Because of this, you should be as non-threatening as possible and let her take her time when responding to you. Don’t talk fast or rush the conversation. Proceed at her comfort level.
Since Japan is an indirect culture when it comes to communicating, watch her non-verbal cues. She may be telling you a lot, but if you’re not paying attention, you won’t pick it up. Japanese women will often not say how they feel, but expect you to pick it up from the way they’re standing, looking at you, holding a glass, and so on. Watch carefully for these nonverbal signs.
I don’t think that Japanese women are difficult to approach at all. It’s just that they come from an extremely different culture, and these characteristics don’t change no matter where they live. You don’t have to know everything about Japanese culture; just keep your approach natural and non-threatening, and watch her for the clues telling you to go ahead.