One thing that Japanese women really take seriously is a hard working attitude. Japanese people are hard workers and this is ingrained in their culture. In Japan, a man’s place in life is his job, and that’s about it. They have an early American perspective on married life – the wife takes care of the home, the husband brings home the bacon, and both work hard at what they do.
Because this is such a big thing to Japanese people, the women really like men who appear to be hard workers. If you’re successful in your career, that will be a major plus. It doesn’t have to be your job; if she sees you as hard-working, passionate about something, that’s a turn-on.
When meeting Japanese women, let this side show a little bit. Show her the things you’re dedicated to. If you’ve got your own business, mention to her how much you care about quality and how meticulous you are about getting the client or customer what they need. It’s this dedication and commitment that will do the trick.
However, there are two pitfalls you want to avoid. First, you don’t want to appear to be bragging about your career success or business. That looks bad in the eyes of Japanese people. There’s an old Japanese proverb that says “A clever hawk hides its talons.” It sounds like an old Zen saying by a monk on a mountaintop, but it is very true today in Japan. If you act like you’re boasting, you look like a fool. On the other hand, if you let the information come out naturally and act humble about it, this looks great.
The other pitfall is not appearing to be a workaholic, or at least not before you start a relationship. One of the things Japanese women complain about their men is the fact that they sacrifice everything for their jobs – including their time with their partners. Japanese company workers are notorious for neglecting their families, and also neglecting their duties in the bedroom.
So, while at first it’s good to show that you’re devoted to your career and successful, you don’t want her to feel like you’re a workaholic. You also don’t want to appear to be bragging about what a big shot you are, or you’ll just look foolish.
There’s a bit of a balancing act to be done when it comes to this. The important thing is to show your devotion to the things that are important to you; for most of us, this means our careers. Always keep in mind the proverb about the hawk. Slowly revealing your talents and achievements looks really great in the eyes of Japanese women. It also keeps an air of mystery about you, which is important for meeting women all over the world.